A boy asked his mother for another piece of cake. "No," she answered. "You have already had 3 pieces." The boy asked again, "Please, Mom, just one more piece- I promise, just one more." Again, his mother said no. The boy did not give up: "C'mon, just one more piece of cake - please, please!!" Finally, the mother relented, "Ok, one last piece, but that's it!!" The boy smiled and said, " Honestly, Mom, you have no self control."

In an age of excess, our children need to learn "no." Often when children have not learned to say "no," it is because they have never heard it from us.  Melville wrote that Hawthorne said, "No! In thunder." In other words, "no," when others say "yes," is the easy answer, ready to risk the conflict and anger that "no" might bring. At times decency and integrity depend upon being able to say "no." Our Children have friends; the need parents. They have stuff; they need soul. They have wealth; they need wisdom. They have attitude; they need self-respect. The embody entitlement; they must treasure honor. Surrounded by “yes” we must also teach “no.”